“I guess you are wishing you by no means wrote any articles about Invoice Gates,” a good friend stated.
I tilted my head and stared at him quizzically. (Evidently I do this rather a lot. Derek Zoolander has “Blue Metal.” My spouse says my signature look is “Puzzled Golden Retriever.”)
“Properly, he is getting a divorce,” he answered. “There was his reported relationship with Jeffrey Epstein. The Wall Avenue Journal says he needed to step down from the Microsoft board due to an investigation right into a relationship with an worker.The New York Instances says he pursued girls who labored for him at Microsoft, and at his and his spouse’s basis.”
He nodded. “Yep,” he stated. “I guess you want you had by no means written something constructive about him.”
Really, I do not want I hadn’t written something constructive about Gates, as a result of I by no means actually did. There’s an enormous distinction between admiring an individual, and adopting one or two of his or her methods.
Whereas I do know individuals who know Gates, I do not. Nor do I do know Melinda. So — and whereas this sounds harsh, that is not my intent — I do not care, by hook or by crook, about Invoice Gates the particular person. That is for his household, mates, colleagues, and even acquaintances; I am none of these.
However I do assume his two-question strategy to fixing large issues — “Who has handled this drawback nicely? And what can we study from them?” — is beneficial.
That article wasn’t an endorsement of Gates. It was an endorsement of not losing time making an attempt to reinvent the wheel when a superbly good wheel already exists.
The identical is true for, say, Elon Musk. Chances are you’ll like Musk. Chances are you’ll not. Forming an opinion about Musk the particular person, constructive or unfavorable, is fascinating but additionally irrelevant. I do not know him, nor seemingly do you. We’re not ready to “care,” a method or one other (once more, not in a nasty method) about Musk.
But his “first rules” strategy to fixing issues — establishing a basic reality or conclusion that you already know is true, deconstructing it all the way down to its core parts, and dealing up from there — will be extraordinarily helpful. Clearing the muddle and noise by deciding on a reality, or premise, or conclusion that’s the solely conclusion, no matter my perspective?
Chances are you’ll or could not like Jeff Bezos. That does not make his strategy to creating selections — one-way doorways versus two-way doorways — any much less helpful. Mark Cuban got here below hearth some years in the past for improper office conduct that existed within the Dallas Mavericks group. (The investigation discovered no wrongdoing by Cuban, however it did occur below his watch. That does not make Cuban’s “no mentors rule” — or his strategy to conferences — any much less helpful.)
Lance Armstrong as soon as gave me biking suggestions. I am not going to cease utilizing them as a result of he admitted to doping.
What issues is the high quality of the technique, tip, device, or perspective. And whether or not it truly advantages you. Not the supply.
As a result of none of us are good. A few of us (and by “a few of us,” I imply me) are rather a lot much less good than others. We’re all a blended bag.
Moreover: Outcomes are knowable and will be admired.
Folks, even folks comparatively near us, are largely unknowable. Deciding whether or not I like, a lot much less admire, Gates or Musk or Cuban or anybody I do not actually know is a waste of time. My “emotions” about individuals who play no function in my life are irrelevant.
However studying from individuals who have discovered a greater approach to do one thing I wish to do? Studying from their successes and failures? Making use of helpful, actionable suggestions and instruments to my skilled or private life?
I’d be silly to not.
As a result of you’ll be able to embrace an individual’s technique.
With out “embracing” the particular person.