Few books have grabbed my consideration from the primary web page the way in which Fearing Nothing by Michael O’Brien did. Michael begins this e-book by sharing his private story of how he had gained bodybuilding contests and was attending one other one when he had his first panic assault that precipitated him to hurry out of the auditorium. Wow! I believed. You imply even bodybuilders have nervousness assaults and endure from worry and melancholy? And that was only the start for Michael. He discovered himself unexplainably having to get out of a automotive and run three miles in his gown sneakers, having to expire of a restaurant whereas having lunch together with his brother, after which being unable to drive and even depart house. Too typically, individuals with nervousness and worry points keep silent, attempting to cover their issues from others, so I need to say, “Michael, thanks for sharing your story as a result of it makes the remainder of us notice we’re not alone and it offers us the braveness to share ours.”
All of us have stress in our lives, however generally, the stress turns into practically unmanageable. Whereas I’ve by no means had a panic assault, generally I’ve thought I used to be on the verge of 1 and I typically have nervousness throughout the work day, so I might relate to numerous what Michael mentioned, and I discovered the instruments he provided to be past useful.
After sharing his story, Michael goes on to divide the e-book into three sections. The primary is concerning the stressors that result in nervousness, worry, melancholy, and different phobias. He makes use of the phrase STRESSORS as an acronym for every of the foremost 9 stressors that trigger nervousness and worry, together with points with Self-Esteem and Sensitivity. A few of these stressors appear apparent, however others are shocking, together with the primary one: Good. I used to be each shocked and happy by this primary stressor-it seems I’ve nervousness as a result of I am clever. As Michael factors out, clever individuals analyze and consequently take into consideration what can go improper, which causes them stress. So nervousness is a facet impact of what’s in any other case an asset I’ve. Who would have thought? Michael explains it this fashion:
“For each symptom you have had and skilled, you have been ready to create its previous ideas or create these concepts. Prefer it or not, you’re most likely above common in terms of IQ. You’re doubtless smarter than you notice. You do not have to be a physician or an lawyer to be thought of sensible. There are many sensible individuals on the planet who work at huge firms and small firms; sensible individuals work as gardeners, academics, and mechanics; they work at salons, saloons, anyplace and in every single place.”
He goes on to clarify that as a result of individuals with nervousness are clever, they mainly sabotage themselves: “You will need to know this isn’t taking place to you. It is taking place inside you. No exterior supply is doing this to you. Nothing is attacking you. All of this has been created by you, however it’s additionally refreshing to know it may be cured by you.” Michael additionally describes how we will use our intelligence to inform ourselves new tales that are not so debilitating to us.
The second part of the e-book is REST, additionally an acronym that discusses the strategies or actions individuals want to make use of to beat their nervousness and worry. The R stands for Leisure. Michael gives many useful methods for learn how to calm down your physique, and he advocates that you simply do these easy and brief actions a number of occasions a day to show your physique learn how to calm down and to develop into accustomed to being relaxed. The T stands for Instruments. That is the longest chapter within the e-book as a result of Michael has ten fantastic instruments you need to use. Once more, some could also be apparent similar to respiratory, however there are different very shocking ones similar to “The Hoax.” You may need to examine that for your self as a result of it is troublesome to clarify, however Michael shares his private story of how he found this unimaginable software, and it jogs my memory of different issues I do know such because the significance of letting go or surrendering to resolve a state of affairs.
The ultimate part is YOU, an acronym for the way you’re the resolution to the issue. This part additionally included sensible recommendation on methods you’ll be able to enhance your state of affairs. The e-book concludes with a ultimate be aware after which appendices that embody lists of Bible verses about worry and nervousness that present consolation and likewise a collection of affirmations you need to use to make your self really feel higher.
One ultimate factor I actually appreciated was Michael’s viewpoint on the pointlessness of attempting to find out the causes of hysteria and all the opposite associated fears and signs. This e-book is just not about psychoanalysis. Michael, the truth is, focuses solely on overcoming the issue reasonably than attempting to dig into the previous. He states that he tried for years to determine the causes of his points, and in the end, he got here to the conclusion that:
“There may be nothing to find. There is no such thing as a resolution to be discovered for 2 causes: 1) You’ve gotten an exquisite and inventive thoughts the place tens of millions of ideas are created, and a couple of) Everybody on the planet has these identical wild and loopy ideas, too. Sure, it is true; they only react otherwise than you have got; due to this fact, they by no means give these ideas a lot consideration in any respect. They launch the ideas instantly and transfer on. Identical to you’ll over time.”
Maybe most significantly, Michael advocates that the reader do what he has done-quit hiding your state of affairs from the world. Michael states:
“You’re hiding. It is time to cease hiding. When an alcoholic involves grips with the truth that he is an alcoholic, one of many first steps to bettering himself is to confess he’s, the truth is, an alcoholic.
“Nicely, you may not be an alcoholic, however you’re somebody who’s hiding from society. A lot in order that by not admitting what you’re coping with, you convey on further struggling. You’re contributing to the worry. The worry that somebody will discover out. The worry that somebody will assume you are unusual. The worry that you will be fired in case your boss finds out. The worry that you simply will not be accepted. The worry of what’s going to individuals assume? At this time is the day you finish that. Let the world know.
“I promise one can find consolation in understanding individuals will nonetheless love you. You’ll discover consolation in understanding individuals will probably be involved about you in a loving approach. You’ll uncover extra individuals are experiencing this identical state of affairs than you ever thought potential.”
I’ve taken a lot of the recommendation on this e-book to coronary heart, and whereas I have not tried all of the instruments but, I consider that individuals will discover a lot on this e-book to assist them-they can take what works for them and depart the remaining as a result of nobody resolution matches everybody. That mentioned, thankfully, there are numerous items to the answer in these pages, and I’m sure one can find one thing helpful right here that may make your life much less fearful, extra regular, and hopefully even happier and extra joy-filled.